The One! 9 Reasons Not to Give Up

9 Reasons not to give up on The One - Honestly Holly
9 Reasons not to give up on The One - Honestly Holly
9 Reasons not to give up on The One - Honestly Holly
9 Reasons not to give up on The One - Honestly Holly

Growing up, I had all the same misconceptions that I think most girls do.

The One would come along nice and easy. I assumed I would date boys in high school, go to university, meet the love of my life in my last year, we would get awesome jobs, and end up married with dogs and kids in the suburbs living happily ever after.

Sunset Love The One

THIS NEVER HAPPENS

I am smart and sensible. I have a law degree and have never placed a bet on anything in my life. So how on earth was I ever foolish enough to think that the scenario above would be my life? Why would I think The One would just fall into my lap on the tube one day?
 
My path has been very different. I didn’t really date boys in high school. I went to university, dated guys that should have just been friends, made mistakes. I didn’t meet the love of my life. I never thought I would even consider giving out dating advice.
 

I am, however, living the beginning of my happy ending. I found The One.

 

I got a job I hated, changed careers, and ended up as an estate agent. Long story short, I ended up on Tinder searching for women. Years of dating and flirting with some very wonderful and some very awful people, I swiped right on the love of my life, M, at the grand old age of 28.

True Love The One

 

There were a hundred times I thought I would be alone, just in 2015.

 
I vowed off men, women, humans, and decided to devote myself to my life and trying to finally finish watching every episode of Grey’s Anatomy. People like Meredith find The One. Not people like me. I was so very wrong.
 
I won’t tell you the whole of our story; it’s Ours and special and private to us. What I will tell you is this – She is worth every bad date, negative comment, tear, bottle of rum and everything else. A week in my life is so worth it, with her by my side.
 

So here are my 9 reasons why you should keep dating and find The One:

1     Support
When the world grinds you down all week, you have someone that will hold your hand and pretend nothing is happening whilst you cry uncorrelated buckets of tears at Queer Eye for the Straight Guy, and release a week’s worth of tension.

 

2     Someone to share the burden with

You’ll have someone who will brush and blow your hair when you’re poorly and just can’t handle it. Even just having someone to split household chores with makes life just that little bit more bearable.

3     Comfort

The thought of finally getting home to slippers, pyjamas and The One will get you through your sixth hour of traffic jams in two days.

4     Excitement keeps you young

Butterflies in your stomach. Forever. So worth it.

5     Someone to share with

When you’re in a restaurant and you can’t decide between two meals, you have someone to order the other so you can try both. When you see a beautiful rainbow, you have someone to send it to.


6     A problem shared is a problem halved

There’s always someone to make you see another side to the thing you’re worrying incessantly about.

7     There’s no place like home

You’ll have someone that, no matter where you are in the world, no matter how bad you feel, when you’re with them, you are home.


8     Intimacy

Morning cuddles. A hand to hold in the cold. Kisses in the rain. Enough Said.

9     Adventure
 
That dream holiday to the Maldives you’ve always wanted? Set it for your honeymoon. The cupcake shop in your city that’s gone viral for it’s 2000 calorie all day breakfast cupcake? You have someone to share one with, who won’t judge you for wanting three. Want to try mountain climbing? Someone to catch you when you fall. 
 
I know what it feels like to go on 8 failed dates in a row. I know what it feels like to wonder if all men are vile or if all women are insane cat owners.
 
I also know what it feels like to open your eyes every morning and see this sleepy, mushed up face whose eyes light up when they see you, morning breath, smeared leftover mascara and all.
 

So please. Don’t give up on dating; don’t give up on yourself. You deserve to be loved. Your reward for all things good will come, exactly at the right time. Say yes to the man in the coffee shop. Ask the girl in the park if she wants to share a coffee. Tweet that person with the hilarious gifs that retweets you. Load that dating app and Swipe Right. Whatever avenue you want to take to date town, stride boldly and enjoy the journey!

Happy Ending The One
 

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11 thoughts on “The One! 9 Reasons Not to Give Up

    • hollyhoman says:

      Get on every app, talk to every person in the street, shops, bars, anything. You never know who you might come across! Could be The One, could be a new friend!

  1. Kayla says:

    Holly, these are great points! In the moment when the the wound is still fresh, we always “swear off” men, women, like you mentioned, and I think it’s in our nature because we naturally don’t want to feel the pain again. But you’re so right, humans are social and loving creatures. We NEED Love!

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